Wednesday, December 29, 2010

About Last Night . . .

A retrospective of a strange decade and a welcoming to the new year. 




I was there in 2010, sitting crosslegged beneath a concrete awning on a bus bench. You've probably read about those times. They called them The End Times.

The banks stole our houses. Wall Street stole our savings. The pubs stole our paychecks. Families ran thin; hope disparaged. Everybody was educated and uneducated at once. China played puppetmaster and requested a slow dance. We danced. Our debts outlived our children and our government sat back in an armchair and eavesdropped while we cried the blues.

The corporations shifted shapes and disappeared in the shadows. They existed one minute and were gone another. There's one! No, wait . . . There's one! I swear, it was just there, behind the shadow! 

We gave the Other Guy a voice. Flip on the TV and there's a dark man in a turban; flip on the radio and there's a lesbian in eyeglasses; flip open the newspaper and there's Charley the Chimney Sweep and his two children, Milo and Millie. He used to afford himself a shave, but not any more. Not in The End Times.

We had hippies, conservatives, gays, immigrants, rich, poor, fat and ugly in the same soup bowl. The good guys and the bad guys held hands around the fire and listened to the wind. 

There was coffee in every corner of this tired country. If not coffee, then tea, and lots of it.  Flannel roamed the streets but nobody chopped our trees.

People stood scared. End times felt nigh and you could smell it in the air. Whispers roared across the internet like the midnight screech of a banshee. Our government had turned on us. The new president seemed a phony and Americans talked stupid. Each and all of them. Education became wrong. Finances became wrong and polka dots became wrong in the same twist, and nobody knew how to dance. Except the Latinos. And the Latinos were as wrong as the wrongest.

Hard work died with the Great Generation. It died on the bottom of the boots that stomped across Europe during the second Great War. Jaw lines gave way to softer silhouettes and baseball players quit smoking in the dugout. Children wondered why their fathes took them to ball games; fathers wondered, too. You could taste the difference in the bun of the hot dog.

The road trip died with the gasoline and that small town between Sesquallah and Mackinaw filled up with meaty cheeseburgers before disappearing into the potbelly sunset behind a fleet of warm rubber. Nobody stopped the change; nobody knew how or if. 

Antique collectors died beneath the war boot and left vast collections of soiled memories in worthless commercial dens.

New shiny things sprang from our pockets and rested upon bald foreheads. You couldn't fill a dusty garage with products built in the End Times. It showed on the streets and in the mirrors. Cheap. Dirty.

Art jogged in a cloud of confusion and died bedside during deep sleep. Nobody knew; nobody remembered. We stood immovable. Please me, don't push me.

And yet some things stayed the same. Nobody stopped celebrating, building, talking or using the bathroom and locking the door on the way in. Babies birthed, fats skinnied, skinnies fatted and strong vision blurred. Chefs cooked. Locksmiths made copper keys and Americans released the clutch and nodded into the rearview.

Rich people in suits sold money and poor people in jumpsuits sold electricity. The Grand Canyon became an inch deeper and a foot longer. Coffee stayed hot and liquor strong. Fresh girls flirted, charmers charmed and angry lovers cropped scandals in the doorway of a frosty motel off the main strip.

Men sported, women gossiped and doctors spoke the nutritional benefits of low cholesterol and seafood. The air improved and the government worked slowly on forgotten highways and promised promises. Small businesses grew up to become international cyclones and big businesses grew stale and old in a musty cupboard. Thanksgiving brought turkey, the holidays brought ham and vegetarians ate neither. In the cold, we wore gloves and scarves; in the country, we wore cowboy hats and in the summer we wore bathing suits and sunglasses. 

Good people did good and good people did bad. Bad people did good and bad people did bad. Politics remained politics and voters voted. The distrustful didn't trust and the spinsters spun.

Trees grew, the sun rose, flowers bloomed and we fell humbled by sunset to ensure the stars got a chance, too. 

The strong continued to fight and the weak were pulled tirelessly through history, into the future. And through pungent trials, we became reminded, after a long forgotten spell, that life lived, and with it came unequaled opportunity, and that love and hope could break the dreary spell of anguish that shadowed our sights.

And at the end of the hollowest night, amidst the darkest length of the western horizon, beneath a thick winter's mist, a warm glimpse of silver sun rose, casting a long light through the oceans and over the mountains, and we could say that the past finally lay ahead of us. Take a quick step without notice. Quickly now, take another.





Thursday, December 2, 2010

The Sage Says, ‘Hey, Phony! Made ya look!’


Sage: A profoundly wise person, or, a person famed for their wisdom.

Puerto Rican Sage: A profoundly wise person, or, a person famed for their wisdom born in Puerto Rico.

Phony: a person who professes beliefs and opinions that he or she does not hold in order to conceal his or her real feelings or motives; bogus, fraudulent, having a misleading appearance

The Sage talks about confidence. She compares “True Confidence” with “False Confidence”, and then gives me a funny glare that makes me ask myself: Is my confidence True or False? And what’s the difference.

False confidence parades around disguised as true confidence. It tries to be as “True” as possible, always asking itself: What Would True Confidence Do (WWTCD)? Would true confidence laugh at that joke? Yes. So false confidence laughs. Would true confidence attend the Old Friend’s party? No. So false confidence stays home. It walks like true confidence; it talks like true confidence, but it’s not quite the same.

So what’s the difference? It’s like the difference between a replica and a human in Bladerunner. It’s minute (mine-oot), and it takes the right sorts of questions and situations to discern the two. You’ve probably seen it before: Somebody you thought was confident crumbles under pressure, or something just doesn’t quite ­add up—the whole is less than the sum of its parts. They’re the people that seem stuck.

*Harrison Ford and the replica. If you look closely, you can tell that she's being phony

The false confidence is the product of a conflict that happens within. The proprietor feels that they are insufficient and, as a response to that, they build something, a persona, an alternative reality, a sandcastle—who knows. But they build shoddy things that remind you of the last-minute products placed beside the checkout register at the 99-cent store. Like a jump rope that’s really just a shoelace with pink plastic handles.

True confidence follows no road map. It is creativity embodied.

But what’s the real tell-tale sign of false confidence? It’s Misery. Only the keeper knows the beast. It’s a terrible, agitated misery that follows false confidence around like an inbred Labrador.

You know how some of the happiest, most jovial people you know turn out to be “depressed”? That’s false confidence at its finest.

At this point, you may be wondering: Is my confidence True, or is it False?

I’m sorry to be the one to tell you this, but, your confidence is . . .  false. You’re a phony. I already said I’m sorry. Enjoy the rest of your night and tune in next time for: Life is a Sad Place.

Signing off.



Kakakaka! Here’s the truth: The most confident people I have ever met still embody false confidence once in a while (except for Tyler Andre! Whoop whoop) (but seriously, Ty, it’s not fair). Everybody houses a mix of both.

So, how can you tell? You must focus on what makes you miserable. What sucks the satisfaction out of your life? Which interactions, events, people, environments, situations, make you absolutely miserable? Wherever that misery lies, you have a source of your Confidence Crisis—the devil’s playground!

When you have a confidence crisis, you overcompensate by adopting false confidence, and, so on and so forth until you suffer the crisis of the 21st century: Phoniness. And a phony life is sincerely the biggest waste of the most splendid Grand Prize you’ve ever won; it's called LIFE. (you, by the way, were the fastest sperm in a herd of a billion—think about that . . .)

What’s fantastic about all of this is that there’s a bona fide solution to it all. And it’s fairly simple. It’s modeled after the Third Law of Physics; it's been tried, tested and proved. The Puerto Rican Sage discovered it one night while drinking wine and reading Vanity Fair.

*The Sage doth come forth to profess


That’s not true, she actually discovered it three years ago when she had an encounter with her oldest friend in Mexico. The friend had a laundry list of problems—alcoholism, divorce, kids-on-drugs, too much money, etc.—and it made The Sage miserable. She didn’t know why. It wasn’t the booze, or the kids or the money, but something else. It was something within her that was going unmet in the relationship with her problematic friend—a need, unmet.

So The Sage began to explore human needs and discovered something that nobody had ever realized before. Something that would change the world forever. Something that she would eventually unveil on a hideous blog to people she doesn’t know . . . stay tuned!

Yours Sincerely,
The Messenger’s Messenger

Bernadette Messenger was born on a ranch in Bornsworth, TN to Alicia and Bruce Messenger. After graduating from Fort Milworth College in Dunesport, New Hapshire with a degree in Pediphorical Maltransportation, she moved to a small village in Fanley, where she met her husband, and the love of her life, Phil. Today, her and Phil live together happily in Mondo Canyon, where she studies Puerto Rican anthropology and raises their two children, Willard and Malia. Phil is currently unemployed.